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Happy Thanksgiving To You and Yours!

Dear UCA Family and Friends,

Thanksgiving holiday always has a special place in the hearts of UCA family, because we have so much to be thankful for.

Whether it is the record-breaking 2022 Chinese American Convention, or our first Chinese American Youth Convention, or the downfall of the China Initiative, or our continued fight for fair treatment of Anming Hu, Feng Tao and many other Chinese American scientists; or the latest exciting news that Sherry Chen finally won a historic settlement with the Federal government, a rare milestone, or the welcoming of new UCA-Arizona chapter and UCA Southwest Florida chapter, or the fast expanding of our WAVES program across the country, or the successful launching of UCA Community Fund, or the establishment of UCA Action and UCA PAC, two powerful tools allowing our community to engage deeper in the political process, your abundant support for and belief in UCA and its vision have sustained and lifted us all.

We achieved so much together in 2022 by following our motto of serve, lead, inspire. We are working hard for another bumper year of harvest, so to speak, in 2023. At UCA, we are a close knit family of great friends thankful for the lasting friendship. Let us make history together, again! Join UCA by becoming a member or renewing your membership https://ucausa.org/join-uca/, or by planning a year-end gift of donation to UCA https://ucausa.org/uca-2022-holiday-fundraising/.

Although we cannot gather in person for this holiday, we are connecting and embracing each other in spirit and prayers!

Thank you, the amazing UCA family and friends!

Happy Thanksgiving!

Warmly yours,
The UCA Team

亲爱的UCA家人和朋友:

感恩节在UCA大家庭的心中总是有着特殊的地位，因为我们有太多的事情要感恩！

无论是创纪录的2022年UCA美国华人大会，还是我们的首届全美华人青年大会；无论是挫败美国司法部的“中国倡议”，还是UCA WAVES项目在全国范围内的快速扩张; 无论是陈霞芬最终与联邦政府达成历史性和解的里程碑，还是UCA为华裔科学家诸如为胡安明和陶丰教授等争取公平对待的不懈努力；无论是欢迎亚利桑那分会和西南佛罗里达分会的成立，还是UCA社区基金会的成功启动；或者是UCA Action和UCA PAC这两个让华人社区更深入参与美国政治进程的有力工具的创立；你们对UCA及其愿景的帮助和信任，都支持和鼓舞了我们所有人。

在2022年，我们遵循“服务、领导和激励”的UCA座右铭，一起取得了如此多的成就。我们正在准备迎接另一个丰收年，2023年的到来。在UCA，我们是一个亲密的大家庭，感谢你们长久以来的友谊，让我们再次一起创造历史！

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虽然不能在这个节日聚集在一起，但我们在精神上和祈祷中彼此连接和拥抱！

谢谢你们，UCA的家人和朋友们！

感恩节快乐！

 UCA团队

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Love Doesn’t Need to Kill Each Other—Five Expressions of Love”–How to choose a suitable expression?

Classes

Case 1

妻子逼着丈夫每天早上喝牛奶，使得不爱喝牛奶的丈夫痛苦不堪。

这妻子是在表达爱吗？

A wife forced her husband to drink milk every morning, which made the husband (who didn’t like milk) miserable. Is this wife expressing her love?

如果把案例中夫妻关系换成亲子关系，“被逼着喝牛奶”换成“去上父母认为必须上的补习班/课外活动”、“必须达到的成绩单”、“应该考上的大学”……这样的场景我们不是很熟悉吗？

If the husband-wife relationship in the case is replaced by a parent-child relationship, “being forced to drink milk” is replaced by “going to the cram school/extracurricular activities “, “report card grades that must be achieved”, “Universities that should be admitted to”… Aren’t we familiar with such scenes?

Case 2

The mother was very angry because the child missed a class, thinking that the child would make up the work for it quickly, but when she came home, she found that the child not only failed to make up the homework, but also made a mess in the kitchen. But the child just wanted to make a bowl of “ugly” noodles for the mother. The mother immediately became furious and scolded the child.  As a result, the child ignored his mother for a week.

Is this mother wrong for caring about her child’s homework?

古人云：甲之熊掌，乙之砒霜。当我们竭尽全力去“爱”家人的时候，我们有没有想过，我们给出的“爱”，在对方眼中可能是枷锁，是命令，是控制，甚至是威胁，是毒药……

到底要用什么方式去“爱”才是最适合的呢？

The ancients said: ” One man’s meat is another man’s poison. ” When we try our best to “love” our family members, have we ever thought that the “love” we give may be a shackle, an order, a control, or even a threat, or a poison in the eyes of the other party…

What is the most suitable way to “love”?

著名心理咨询师方琦老师受南北卡华人社区服务中心（简称CCACC）和美国华人联合会精神健康项目组（简称UCA Waves）的特别邀请，从10月27日开始，为大家开设了一个《相爱不必相杀——爱的五种表达》的系列线上课程，用五节课来“破解爱的密码”。

The well-known psychological counselor Mrs. Fang Qi was specially invited by the North-South Carolina Chinese Community Service Center (CCACC) and the Mental Health Project Team of the United Chinese American Association (UCA Waves). Starting from October 27th, a series of online courses “Love does not have to kill each other – five expressions of love” have been opened for everyone, using five lessons to “crack the code of love”.

欢迎学员们扫码加入以下的”心理成长自助营“，分享自己的实践过程和反馈，共同成长。

Students are welcome to scan the QR code to join the following “Psychological Growth Self-help Camp”, share their practice process and feedback, and grow together.

方老师建议大家在听完本期视频后，完成以上作业，发到“心理成长自助营”群里，互相监督鼓励，这样可以帮助大家更好地理解课程的内容，把知识转化为能力。

第一节课  暖心的言语 

The First Lesson -Warm Words

 On October 27th (10.27.2022)

10月27日的第一节课，方老师带领大家一起通过分析案例探讨了爱的第一种表达——“暖心的言语”。

In the first class on October 27, Mrs. Fang led everyone to discuss the first expression of love—”heart-warming words” through case analysis.

拥有“爱商”，让生活更幸福-《相爱不必相杀—爱的五种表达》公益讲座第一课

Public Welfare Lecture Lesson 1

Have a “love quotient” to make life happier – “Love does not need to kill each other – five expressions of love”

第二节课  用心的陪伴

The Second Lesson- Accompanied By Heart 

On November 3rd (11.03.2022)

在第二期的课堂上，方老师和学员们一起探讨了爱的第二种表达——“用心的陪伴”。

In the second class, Mrs. Fang and the students discussed the second expression of love – “Accompanied by heart”.

解答了什么才是“高质量的陪伴”，正确和错误的案例分析，以及如何在生活中去实践等等问题。

She explained what is “high-quality companionship”, right and wrong case studies, and how to practice in life and so on.

【视频2】《相爱不必相杀——爱的五种表达》–何为高质量的陪伴？

[Video 2] “Love doesn’t have to kill each other – five expressions of love” – ​​what is high-quality companionship?

第三节课 贴心的行动

The Lesson 3rd Lesson” Intimate Actions 

ON November 10th (11.10.2022)

在第三期的课堂上，方老师首先解答了在上一周里学员们提出的问题（如下图）。

In the third class, Mrs. Fang first answered the questions raised by the students in the previous week (as shown in the picture below).

然后，以本文开头的那两个场景为案例，方老师深入分析了如何选择“正确的爱的表达方式”——

Then, taking the two scenes at the beginning of this article as examples, Mrs. Fang deeply analyzed how to choose the “correct way of expressing love”

爱TA，就要用TA喜欢的方式去爱，而不是你喜欢或者你以为TA喜欢的方式，否则就会南辕北辙，爱反而成了伤害。

To love a person, you must love in the way they like, not in the way you like or think they like, otherwise it will be the opposite, and love will become hurtful instead.

方老师建议大家在听完本期视频后，完成以上作业，发到“心理成长自助营”群里，互相监督鼓励，这样可以帮助大家更好地理解课程的内容，把知识转化为能力。

Mrs. Fang suggested that after listening to this video, you should complete the above assignments and send them to the “Psychological Growth Self-help Camp” group to supervise and encourage each other. This will help you better understand the content of the course and transform knowledge into abilities.

第四节课

The 4th Lesson

On November 17 (11.17.2022)

本周四（11月17日），请继续关注UCA WAVES-CCACC 公益心理系列讲座-《相爱不必相杀——爱的五种表达》第四课 ，一起学会爱，懂得爱。

This Thursday (November 17), please continue to pay attention to the fourth lesson of UCA WAVES-CCACC Public Welfare Psychology Lecture Series – “Love Doesn’t Need to Kill Each Other—Five Expressions of Love” to learn and understand love together.

方老师将用自己从业二十多年的真实案例，使大家看到亲密关系里最真实的对方和自我，看到人性最深切的渴望和需求。通过觉察和感悟，摆脱情感的自动巡航，走出爱的困境——让自己、让爱人、让孩子、让父母，让亲密关系里的每一个人，都感到温暖，得到陪伴。

Mrs. Fang will use her real cases obtained by more than 20 years of practice, so that everyone can be the most authentic partner and self in close relationships, and see the deepest wants and needs of human nature. Through awareness and perception, get rid of auto-pilot emotions, and get out of the dilemma of love—let yourself, those you love, your children, your parents, and everyone in close relationships feel warm and receive companionship.

时间：10月27 – 12月1日  每周四晚

美东时间 8:00pm – 9:00pm

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Time: October 27th – December 1st every Thursday evening

8:00pm – 9:00pm ET

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AAPI Trauma Healing Program

Join us for a 90-minute webinar on inter-generational trauma hosted by Yale School of Medicine’s CHATogether program. The webinar will be taking place on Wednesday, November 2nd from 6:00-7:30 PM EST on Zoom. Don’t miss this amazing opportunity for healing!

Featured Speakers

Robert Wood Johnson Foundation (RWJF) Clinical Scholars: Breaking Silence Team

(from left) Dr. Juliana Chen, Dr. Weiyang Xie, Dr. Justin Chen, & Lily Chen

Juliana H. Chen, MD, is a child and adolescent psychiatrist at Massachusetts General Hospital (MGH) and Newton-Wellesley Hospital (NWH), and a clinical instructor at Harvard Medical School. She serves as Associate Director of the MGH Center for Cross-Cultural Student Emotional Wellness and has special interest in supporting Asian American students and families.

Weiyang Xie, PhD, is an Assistant Professor of Clinical Psychology at the Department of Psychiatry at the University of Illinois Chicago. She worked as the Clinical Psychologist & served the Chair of Diversity, Equity and Inclusion Committee of the Health & Wellness Unit at the University of Notre Dame, IN. She also serves as a consulting psychologist for UCA WAVES Program for Asian American youth mental health.

Justin A. Chen, MD, MPH, is Medical Director of Ambulatory Psychiatry Services and Co-Director of Primary Care Psychiatry at Massachusetts General Hospital (MGH). He is also the Director of the MGH Center for Cross-Cultural Student Emotional Wellness and the Co-Director of Medical Student Education in Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. He specializes in the treatment of adult mood and anxiety disorders and is dedicated to teaching and mentorship.

Jian (Lily) Chen, MA, RN, CNE, is a lecturer at North Carolina Central University Department of Nursing. She is a certified Mental Health First Aid (MHFA) instructor. Lily is a community organizer and has published multiple OpEds that have been featured in major US news outlets. Lily is UCA WAVES Project director, Senior advisor and previous Executive Director of UCA, and the founding President for UCA Illinois Chapter.

The Clinical Scholars Breaking Silences Team will be hosting our session Breaking Silences: Youth Mental Health & Parent-Child Communication. This parent education session will focus on improving parent-child communication, as well as supporting youth and their mental health.

Click here for more info about the Clinical Scholars and their project!

Daphne Kwok: WAVES Guest Speaker

Daphne Kwok is the Vice President of Diversity, Equity & Inclusion, Asian American & Pacific Audience Strategy at American Association of Retired Persons (AARP). 

A 1984 graduate of Wesleyan University, Ms. Kwok is the first Asian American to serve on its Board of Trustees.

Previously, Ms. Kwok was the Executive Director of Asians & Pacific Islanders with Disabilities of California. She was also the Executive Director of the Angel Island Immigration Station Foundation in San Francisco. For 11 years, she was the Executive Director of the Organization of Chinese Americans (OCA), a national membership based civil rights organization. She was the first elected Chair of the National Council of Asian Pacific Americans, a network of national APA organizations. She also served as Executive Director of the Asian Pacific American Institute for Congressional Studies. 

Ms. Kwok was appointed by President Barack Obama in 2010 to chair his Advisory Commission on Asian Americans and Pacific Islanders. The Commission served as the “eyes and ears” of the community advising the President and the federal government about the issues impacting the AAPI community.  
 
Ms. Kwok will be one of the panelist in our Asian American and Pacific Islander (AAPI) Mental Health & Advocacy session. This session will exploring current mental health disparities in AAPI communities, such as the impact of the COVID-19 pandemic.

UCA 2022 Convention Updates – WAVES Mental Health Track!

Register today for UCA’s 3rd Chinese American Convention and our 1st National Youth Convention! 

The convention is being held at Omni Hotel in Washington, D.C. from July 14th-16th. Please click here for registration, hotel bookings, and programming information.

UCA WAVES will be presenting a mental health track with four breakout sessions, a community showcase, AND a movie screening!

To view our full WAVES program click here.

Breakout Sessions

Our mental health track will feature four unique breakout sessions exploring a variety of current mental health topics.
🧠 Breaking Silences: Youth Mental Health & Parent-Child Communication– Parent education session on improving parent-child communication and supporting youth mental health.
🧠 Asian American and Pacific Islander (AAPI) Mental Health & Advocacy – Exploring current mental health disparities in AAPI communities. 
🧠 Demystifying Medications – Educational session on purpose and importance of psychiatric medications in mental health.
🧠 LGBTQ+ Workshop: What Coming Out Means – Exploring queer identities and mental health challenges, and howto be an active ally.
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See UCA WAVES Mental Health Track at Summer Convention: Register Now!

Register today for UCA’s 3rd Chinese American Convention as well as our 1st National Youth Convention! UCA WAVES will be presenting a mental health track with multiple sessions including:

🧠 Parent education sessions led by qualified and passionate mental health professionals

🧠 A short documentary screening of award-winning filmmaker, Changfu Chang’s upcoming film, “Silent War: Asian American Reckoning with Mental Health”

🧠 Youth-led discussion on LGBTQ+ mental health

🧠 Dialogue on health disparities in the AAPI community

The convention is being held in Washington, D.C. from July 14th-16th. Please email lily.chen@ucausa.org with any questions!

July 14-16 

Omni Hotels Resort, Washington D.C. 

Early Registration (Discounted) by May 31

Register now

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UCA WAVES and Yale CHATogether webinar: Building Emotional and Relational Health Through Child-Parent Theater

This month, Yale Compassionate Home, Action Together (CHATogether) and United Chinese Americans (UCA) WAVES partnered to put on a webinar” Building Emotional and Relational Health Through Child-Parent Theater”. Our webinar included an overview of CHATogether, a child-parent skit, and a panel discussion on how to effectively communicate with children when they are going through mental health difficulties. CHATogether is an initiative led by Eunice Yuen, MD PhD that started during the pandemic in response to anti-Asian hate crimes. CHATogether uses artistic outlets, such as interactive theater and graphic novels, to destigmatize mental health and promote healthy communication in Asian American families and communities. 

During the skit, participants saw a drama vignette that captured specific themes of child-parent conflict, such as challenges communicating in multiple languages and different perspectives on accessing mental healthcare. The son and his mom had a heated conversation where the son expressed he was struggling to handle various stressors in his life, including loneliness in the pandemic, sickness in the family, and racism on social media. After watching the problematic interaction, Dr. Yuen moderated a session in which the son and mother talked through the interaction and then enacted a more helpful alternative scenario in which they had more empathetic, curious communication. 

Our panel of experts included Jessica Ouyang MD, Sen Xu MD, Janie Cao, MD, MPH, and Szu-Hui Lee, PhD, ABPP. Dr. Jessica Ouyang advised parents to make sure they are in a good mental and emotional state before engaging with their children. For example, parents should assess whether they are calm enough to listen before asking about their child’s mental health. Dr. Sen Xu shared that mental illnesses have physiological and biological causes, and that treatments, including therapy and medications, have been shown to improve symptoms. He also talked briefly about how mental health providers assess safety risk for suicide. Dr. Janie Cao reminded us about the power of validation, or 认可 (rèn kě) in Chinese. She describes validation as not necessitating agreement but rather as an acknowledgment that what someone is feeling can be their reality. Finally, Dr. Szu-Hui Lee addressed how parents can respond to bullying, which begins with “listening to understand” rather than listening to tell your own story or opinion. She recommends that parents partner with their child to figure out next steps in addressing bullying, rather than go on their own mission to problem-solve and further alienate their child in the process.

Watch the webinar recording here: https://youtu.be/Fst79c4M7-w