A wife forced her husband to drink milk every morning, which made the husband (who didn’t like milk) miserable. Is this wife expressing her love?
If the husband-wife relationship in the case is replaced by a parent-child relationship, “being forced to drink milk” is replaced by “going to the cram school/extracurricular activities “, “report card grades that must be achieved”, “Universities that should be admitted to”… Aren’t we familiar with such scenes?
The mother was very angry because the child missed a class, thinking that the child would make up the work for it quickly, but when she came home, she found that the child not only failed to make up the homework, but also made a mess in the kitchen. But the child just wanted to make a bowl of “ugly” noodles for the mother. The mother immediately became furious and scolded the child. As a result, the child ignored his mother for a week.
Is this mother wrong for caring about her child’s homework?
The ancients said: ” One man’s meat is another man’s poison. ” When we try our best to “love” our family members, have we ever thought that the “love” we give may be a shackle, an order, a control, or even a threat, or a poison in the eyes of the other party…
What is the most suitable way to “love”?
The well-known psychological counselor Mrs. Fang Qi was specially invited by the North-South Carolina Chinese Community Service Center (CCACC) and the Mental Health Project Team of the United Chinese American Association (UCA Waves). Starting from October 27th, a series of online courses “Love does not have to kill each other – five expressions of love” have been opened for everyone, using five lessons to “crack the code of love”.
Students are welcome to scan the QR code to join the following “Psychological Growth Self-help Camp”, share their practice process and feedback, and grow together.
The First Lesson -Warm Words
On October 27th (10.27.2022)
In the first class on October 27, Mrs. Fang led everyone to discuss the first expression of love—”heart-warming words” through case analysis.
Public Welfare Lecture Lesson 1
Have a “love quotient” to make life happier – “Love does not need to kill each other – five expressions of love”
The Second Lesson- Accompanied By Heart
On November 3rd (11.03.2022)
In the second class, Mrs. Fang and the students discussed the second expression of love – “Accompanied by heart”.
She explained what is “high-quality companionship”, right and wrong case studies, and how to practice in life and so on.
The Lesson 3rd Lesson” Intimate Actions
ON November 10th (11.10.2022)
In the third class, Mrs. Fang first answered the questions raised by the students in the previous week (as shown in the picture below).
Then, taking the two scenes at the beginning of this article as examples, Mrs. Fang deeply analyzed how to choose the “correct way of expressing love”
To love a person, you must love in the way they like, not in the way you like or think they like, otherwise it will be the opposite, and love will become hurtful instead.
Mrs. Fang suggested that after listening to this video, you should complete the above assignments and send them to the “Psychological Growth Self-help Camp” group to supervise and encourage each other. This will help you better understand the content of the course and transform knowledge into abilities.
The 4th Lesson
On November 17 (11.17.2022)
本周四（11月17日），请继续关注UCA WAVES-CCACC 公益心理系列讲座-《相爱不必相杀——爱的五种表达》第四课 ，一起学会爱，懂得爱。
This Thursday (November 17), please continue to pay attention to the fourth lesson of UCA WAVES-CCACC Public Welfare Psychology Lecture Series – “Love Doesn’t Need to Kill Each Other—Five Expressions of Love” to learn and understand love together.
Mrs. Fang will use her real cases obtained by more than 20 years of practice, so that everyone can be the most authentic partner and self in close relationships, and see the deepest wants and needs of human nature. Through awareness and perception, get rid of auto-pilot emotions, and get out of the dilemma of love—let yourself, those you love, your children, your parents, and everyone in close relationships feel warm and receive companionship.
时间：10月27 – 12月1日 每周四晚
美东时间 8:00pm – 9:00pm
Time: October 27th – December 1st every Thursday evening
8:00pm – 9:00pm ET